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Shifting focus.

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Life changes. I know from working with teenagers for decades that this is normal - they often leave high school with one idea of who they want to become, and then they come back during college telling me that they have already gone through some big changes.  Sometimes it even comes with a change in major after discovering something new about themselves.  A new passion. Now I have begun to undergo this transition as an older professional with a design background and a really passionate few decades of teaching. I have felt very good about teaching high school students for so long, and I still do. My passion for teaching is not diluted. However, my desire to do something new is strong right now, and I want to aggressively approach a new creative period in my life. Rather than spending all day helping older students, and doing teacher work, I want to provide a creative product that will appeal to young children. I believe that this shift in focus has been brought on by m

Recognitions - or "how to gracefully accept a pat on the back."

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How to accept recognition... For a long time, since I was in elementary school, I used to get kind of embarrassed when anyone would compliment me because I had never really learned how to appropriately accept a pat on the back, especially when I was at work. I was kind of red-faced about it. Not because I didn't feel happy to receive an accolade, but just because, as a rule, we don't ever get trained how to be gracious. Every person craves acceptance and recognition for what they do, but how does one know what to say? Especially if the compliment comes from someone you admire and wanted to hear good things from? It seems that our almost "pre-programmed" response is to downplay or deflect the compliment so we don't come across as conceited or full of ourselves. According to Entrepreneur Magazine,  it’s so common that sociolinguists have categorized the three most common responses to a compliment: acceptance, deflection or rejection . Have you ever

It is 20/20, you know.

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Hindsight. I grew up hearing the phrase "Hindsight is 20/20" and when I was very young, I really had no idea what that meant. Now that I am easing up on another birthday tomorrow and preparing to enter yet another new phase of my life (retirement) in a few short weeks, I think I can easily reflect on it and explain. Some of the actions that people take in their youth are based in very fast-paced decision making.  "I need to take action, I'll think about the real consequences later on."   I will just deal with it later is a popular refrain when the main person you are thinking about is yourself. But what if you realized suddenly that your decisions were having an unexpectedly profound effect on your friends, co-workers, partner, children? Would that change how long you might think about your decisions? You know you are an adult when you are actually looking FORWARD to gaining hindsight wisdom. I think that I actually had to make a few bad